Posted by alexandra_k on October 30, 2013, at 3:02:59
One of my major gripes this year is that people are all 'yes, totally understand you perfectly, me too' about various things...
Then it turns out that they really don't understand at all and that screws me over. E.g., moving in with people who take themselves to be quiet - but they listen to noisy TV all day. Moving in with people who take themselves to be quiet - but they sing and yell and hysterically laugh much of the time. People who take themselves to be quiet - but listen to loud music and are unable to shut a door without slamming it. I would rather they say 'no idea what you are talking about' or 'well I'm different from you, I like noise'. If they were honest it would have been better for me.Different is different. It isn't better or worse. I don't know why you want to bring smart into it. I don't know why you would want to bring smart into it.
How would you feel if I was all like 'oh yeah, I hear you totally my favorite colour is red, too!' and then when you said 'no my favourite color isn't red, actually it is something else' I went off at you for thinking of yourself as all elitist and special?
I am trying to come to terms with an aspect about me that is different. It is only something that struck me as being different fairly recently. Pretending it doesn't exist (so y'all can feel happier in pretending everybody is exactly the same in every respect) isn't doing me any favours.
I almost put in a 'do not post to me' request. But I won't.
The thing is... I do find your situations interesting. I am interested in hearing about them and seeing what things seem to help etc. I do have an urge to try and say something that may be helpful etc. I do understand that negotiating boundaries is a very hard thing indeed. And that it can be hard to know what one wants sometimes with respect to closer / further away or whatever. But my current situation with flatmates... And the fact that I actually don't think I will ever want to live with anybody... These situations just strike me as really very different. Again, not better, not worse, just different. Not anything about smart, just different.
I am a divergent thinker. I have a tendency to think differently. Most people don't. But most people will say they are divergent thinkers (etc) around me out of their desire to do that emotional bonding never mind the literal meaning of what is said. Or whatever. And thus I learn.. That there really isn't any point talking to people half the time because more than half of them are full of sh*t and don't even seem to know what they are saying.
I'm sorry. But I got this IRL right now in spades.
I don't need it here.
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