Posted by pegasus on September 11, 2013, at 12:02:14
I haven't been here in a while, but you guys saved my life in 2003 when my T suddenly up and moved to another state for family reasons. Well, I'm T-less again now, and it hurts just as much as ever.
This time, it's my family's finances that cut off therapy. We've been going into debt gradually for a long time, and my DH and I finally had the talk that resulted in a spending freeze, probably indefinitely.
I'm totally pissed at my DH, because he hasn't worked full time for *years* and makes very little $. He really likes his job, and also has massive insecurity about work, and I think he wants to change for us, but . . . he just doesn't. We talked through our situation about 6 months ago, and I thought he was going to put together a resume and portfolio and start working on making a change. But when we talked the other day, it turns out that that was not his understanding. He has no plans to do any of that. Which pisses me off! But I'm trying to also see how painful it is for him to feel inadequate about work and not know how to change.
I've let him know how pissed I am, but I've also realized that he *can't* just muscle through making work changes like I would. So, to save us, I have to take on more work myself, and cut all but the most essential expenses. Therapy is not essential, apparently. To be fair, also off the list are swimming lessons for the kiddo, new shoes for anyone, ever eating out, and Christmas presents for our extended family. So, truly, we need to start bailing or we're going to sink.
I want to cry and stamp my feet like a kid. It's not fair! I miss my T! Waaaaaah!
- peg
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