Posted by alexandra_k on September 7, 2013, at 18:19:53
In reply to Re: Ideal Therapist » alexandra_k, posted by Poet on September 7, 2013, at 11:42:53
> I have major trust issues going way back to being a child who trusted the wrong people. I trust my therapist probably more than I trust anyone else besides my husband, but do I really trust anyone 100 percent? I don't think so.
I suppose I have trust issues, too. Sometimes I try and convince myself (or other people try and convince me) that current failures to trust are because of my past trust issues... Which sometimes encourages me to trust them... Which invariably results in my re-discovering that my trust was misplaced.
I expect it is as a certain someone said about fidelity... There probably isn't a module or anything like that for 'fidelity' and probably not useful to think of it as a behavioral kind or type or category or trait... Instead we have a bunch of micro-problems... I'm not explaining this very well... Lets try again...
I think 'trust' is more about little decisions... Particular decisions... Nobody is 100% trustworthy in all respects... We need to feel things out. LIttle measured risks and then honest assessment. Some people can't be trusted to be on time but can be trusted to listen empathetically about marital problems but not be trusted to stop drinking after a few but can be trusted to collect and deliver the kids after saturday ballgames. you get the idea...
> My sense of humor is a cross between Woody Allen and Groucho Marx:-) That helps.
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