Posted by baseball55 on April 20, 2013, at 20:11:45
In reply to Re: question for those in therapy, posted by Twinleaf on April 20, 2013, at 16:37:09
> The absence of actual physical contact has allowed me to have a free range of fantasies about him, from maternal to sexual - and to work through them in a completely safe environment. I wouldn't want it any other way.
My p-doc and I talked a lot about boundaries. Not only physical boundaries, but boundaries about knowing so much about him that I tried to take care of him instead of working on my issues.
But, like you said, the one good thing about him and my DBT therapist is that they are very straightforward about how I make them feel. They don't burden me with this, but will say -- I'm worried about you. I think you are doing amazingly well. I'm happy for you, unhappy for you.
Sometimes they share things about themselves that help. My DBT therapist told me about a difficult transference relationship she had with a therapist to help with with my difficult transference with my p-doc. My p-doc told me about his minimal Christmas's when I got upset about Christmas.
So they do that occasionally. In general, I think they're good therapists. They manage to balance things well.
And also, like the above poster said, the boundaries prevent relationships that are doomed but likely to damage existing relationships.
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