Posted by sigismund on March 27, 2013, at 0:40:18
In reply to Re: defense mechanisms, posted by baseball55 on March 23, 2013, at 19:29:57
>A therapist would say you need to learn first to love yourself and talk to yourself the way you would to a dear friend or that a loving parent would talk to you. Not listen to >these negative voices saying there's something wrong with you, but give yourself compassion and find some peace. If you can do that, you can learn to be more >compassionate and peaceful with others.
This took a long time with me, too long. When I was young my mind was swimming in a soup of resentment, envy and desire and I did not know how to be kind to myself. I got the idea in therapy but didn't really do it. Perhaps having children of my own did it for me? Learning to be compassionate but not indulgent.
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