Posted by annierose on September 8, 2012, at 18:19:17
In reply to What psychodynamic therapy can do......., posted by Twinleaf on September 1, 2012, at 22:55:39
Like you, I have been in a long term psychodynamic relationship ... going on 9 years. I had seen her previously too - when I just got out of college, and called her years later. I'm not sure we clicked right away; but that probably had to do more with me than her. I didn't trust easily. I was 22, angry and depressed and confused. Back then (I'm 50 now) it was hard to know who to believe, the long running tape in my head laid down by my family or this young therapist? I was like a ping pong ball.
But now - with time and maturity I see that she has been a steady source of comfort, wisdom, reason, part cheerleader, a steady rock in stormy seas, unwavering in her support of me ... even when she wants to roll her eyes or gasp in surprise ... [she denies that of course].
My depression slowly lifted over the years (did not use medication, although we discussed it here and there). I know if I didn't have her in my life, I wouldn't be as happy or as functioning as I am. I am not ashamed of my long term relationship and freely admit it to my close friends. I agree with you wholeheartedly when you wrote: " Looking back, the quality and intensity of the relationship to him is what mattered, and is what I will always remember. I'm gradually seeing him less - As long as he is practicing, I will probably see him at least once in a while." I cannot imagine NOT seeing her as long as she is practicing. And I will add, the intensity of our relationship has lessened as I became stronger, (although my feelings are certainly not neutral).
Anyway, I could go on and on. I do not think I could be where I am at today without her in my corner. It is a slow process. But the rewards are great.
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