Posted by Dinah on May 10, 2012, at 9:56:06
I'm afraid of being engulfed by my mother. I see her as a powerful whirlpool of will and need. It is so easy for her to pull people into her world, to dominate them with her will.
Because of that, I'm likely not as kind as I should be. I stay more distant and keep up my defenses.
I feel like a Dane to her Grendel.
Yet I recognize that my perspective is warped by the fact that I have never really stopped seeing her as all powerful mother to my helpless child. I see my separation as one of emotional divorce and doing boundaries, not of power equalization.
On the other hand, she really does dominate the people in her orbit and consciously uses rage and bulldozing to get her way. I say consciously because she's described to me times she's done this.
poster:Dinah
thread:1017630
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