Posted by emmanuel98 on January 23, 2012, at 20:46:19
In reply to Re: How many things anger you?, posted by Raisinb on January 23, 2012, at 19:22:51
> I hate feeling angry because of the powerlessness that comes along with it.
I think that has been part of the problem for me. I used to have dreams about being angry with someone (usually my father, husband or daughter) and pounding and pounding them, but not being able to connect, while they ridiculed me and did hateful things. I was so afraid of anger. So afraid it would spiral out of control.
When I started therapy, my p-doc got angry or sometimes just short-tempered and annoyed at me and I would completely fall apart. He said over and over, so what if I'm angry? People get angry and as long as they're not cruel or disrespecful, it's okay. I'm human. I get angry sometimes. You can get angry at me too. He always told me that my husband would probable prefer it if I would get angry and yell at him. It took me a long time to learn how to do that, but I finally have and my relationship with my husband and daughter is so much better.
I asked my daughter once if she thought I had changed and she said it's obvious to me and to daddy that you've changed. How? I asked. She said you can say what you want now.
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