Posted by Anemone on October 6, 2011, at 16:28:02
In reply to Is there such a thing a being too compatible?, posted by Daisym on October 6, 2011, at 1:06:08
Hi Daisy,
I can understand everything you said: your attachment and connection highlighting the void in your life, the lonely feelings and not being able to clone your T. I have similar feelings as you do. I also want someone as safe to love as her in my real life.
I have asked my T if it's bad that I depend on her so much for really sharing what's inside me. She says it's perfectly fine that I love and need her, and I will build the other relationships when ready.
Maybe your T could help you work on not hating yourself for needing him, and just enjoy your connection and appreciate how much it is helping you? And I imagine it might not be helpful to break away from him before you're ready?
I hope you feel better about this soon!
P. S. When he is away, would it be helpful to replay the good therapy moments and smile to yourself? And keep him in you heart like a lighthouse so you can always imagine him with you, being proud of all the things you do in real life?
Anemone
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