Posted by Solstice on October 1, 2011, at 21:36:55
In reply to Should I have a baby?, posted by PhoenixGirl on October 1, 2011, at 19:00:41
Hi Phoenixgirl...
Babies..children..teens.. they are powerfully demanding at every stage - just in different ways. You probably want to give it very careful consideration. Unfortunately, it's really hard, until you have one, to really appreciate how persistently demanding parenting is. Along with the inherent joys, parenting will add a good measure of stress into your life. Parenting is a lot of work when you have a partner. I am a single parent - and I can tell you that it ore than doubles when you don't have a partner to share it with - or if you have a partner who is problematic.
If you don't have nieces or nephews you could have stay with you for extended periods (like during the summer), ou might be able to give yourself a chance to get a feel for it by finding an underprivileged child to develop a relationship with. The need to nurture can also be addressed through having a pet.
I think the biggest thing to understand is that adding a child to the kind of stressors going on for you at this time would likely not be the wonderful experience you dream of for you.. or for the child.
Solstice
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