Posted by emmanuel98 on August 3, 2011, at 19:24:42
In reply to Re: One of those smile moments » Daisym, posted by Anemone on August 3, 2011, at 18:31:53
For a long time, I would start almost every statement with my t by saying, I know this sounds stupid or this is embarassing to say. He finally said, I wish you wouldn't do that. Just say it. Don't preface everything. I still can't imagine getting mad at him though. I never have. Even when he's been less than perfect (which is rare), I blame myself and feel hurt rather than angry.
I do this with friends and my husband and daughter as well. A couple of weeks ago, a friend of mine wasn't returning any of my calls or text messages. I found myself thinking that she was sick of me and my depression. My new t (I have two t's -- a DBT social worker who is my primary t and my p-doc, who I see every other week and just love too much to stop seeing him) said, it's rude of her not to answer your calls. You need to feel angry rather than hurt and inadequate. She is being rude. So I saw her boyfriend that night and told him to tell her I was p***ed that she didn't return my calls. He said, she's really crazy busy right now. I said, still, she could text me and tell me that, not just ignore me. The next day she texted me and apologized. I was so proud of myself.
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