Posted by Dinah on July 16, 2011, at 12:35:08
In reply to So sad about my p-doc, posted by emmanuel98 on July 15, 2011, at 20:02:34
That was very thoughtful of you.
I have trouble with balancing surrender to the current moment with protecting myself against future pain. I think it's *possible* to hold in my mind at the same time "I can appreciate and trust in what I have now." and "I can accept that I won't always have it." It's hard for me to trust a relationship that's not forever.
I think that's a goal for my therapist.
Are you able to do any research on the type of surgery? I think nowadays they try to get people up and back to their regular lives as soon as possible, even if it involves a wheelchair or assistance. But yes, it is a reminder that no one - whether seventy two or fifty two - lives indefinitely. We can lose anyone we love far too soon. But that's no reason to shield ourselves from the joy of loving, even knowing the pain of loss is somewhere ahead.
Now if I can just learn to believe that.
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