Posted by Willful on May 23, 2011, at 10:33:19
In reply to What is psychobabble? Supportive or cliquey?, posted by wittgensteinz on May 23, 2011, at 5:05:14
I don't think it's cliquiness, but as Dinah says, that there's really no one here. I suppose there are lurkers, who don't respond, but for myself, my desire to contribute has been greatly diminished by many of the attacks and hurtfulness on the admin board during various disagreements about policy here.
I used to care about babble a lot, and I still care about the people here-- but not enough to put myself out there to respond only to be ignored, or feel that there's defensiveness of lack of appreciation for my trying to help-- especially if I don't say exactly what the poster wants to hear.
That's happened to me many times. Dinah is obviously very dedicated to babble, and willing to hold it together; and she 's able to say things in a very good way, which some of us may be more clumsy or brusque in saying.
And then many times you get involved with someone and really care about them and they disapppear forever, or years at a time. You for example (and I'm not blaming you at all-- we all participate to the degree that it is useful and meaningful to us--and most of us are I"m sure here and away from time to time) were here a lot for quite a while and then (from my point of view) disappeared without a word. So I"m hesitant to become involved only to lose touch with you completely and without any idea what's happened or why, I've done the same thing -- I really don't mean I don't blame anyone. I'm just saying what effect it has. When there were more people, this wasn't all so obvious-- there were always people to respond-- and time to get over an sense of disappointment or loss. But now it's just so depleted and fragmented here-- that each post seems a bit forlorn-- with a few exceptions.
I really don't think there are cliques. I just think that right now it takes a lot of effort and energy to get a response-- and a lot of sturdiness and resilience to put yourself out there to respond.
I really am sorry because I"m sure it feels bad for those who are looking for support-- and it's not like we couldn't try harder reach out to one another-- if there were more of a sense of community-- but that just seems to have leached away over the last year or year and a half.
Willful
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