Posted by pegasus on May 23, 2011, at 9:32:35
In reply to Sorry » Annabelle Smith, posted by Annabelle Smith on May 20, 2011, at 14:12:59
I feel this way too, when people suggest things that would get me out of intense negative feelings. I've never done DBT, but I've done CBT, and I hated it, for exactly this reason. OK, yeah, I can examine my cognitive distortions, and give myself reasonable alternative thoughts, but then that's like saying my experience is totally not valid. What I want more than anything at those times is to be seen, and accepted. Maybe eventually CBT/DBT skills can be helpful, but for me I always needed to have my desperate, intense feelings acknowledged first. Then, when I felt heard and valued, I would be more willing to use the skills to help myself get out of the downward spiral.
I just wanted you to know that you're not alone in these feelings.
- p
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