Posted by Dinah on May 19, 2011, at 8:18:23
In reply to need help putting thoughts in words, posted by mmealltalk on May 18, 2011, at 20:16:40
Do you think she truly understands as she says she does?
Understanding doesn't bring about any changes, I'm afraid. :(
I think to some extent, she may be right about having to trust in the relationship. There have been times in my therapeutic relationship when there have been absolutely no constants in our lives except the relationship itself. We met in the house he was staying at during the evacuation. With him in shorts because he didn't even have his work clothes with him. We met in various offices, and at various times. It was disconcerting, but I soon realized that anywhere we both were, we could do therapy. The essentials were him, me, and the space between us.
Maybe you could identify which items are absolutely essential for you and focus on those for continuity? For me, the external variable that was really important was the physical distance between us. And his mood.
If everything about you were to change, what are the things you would hold on to in your therapeutic relationship. Are those things in any danger?
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