Posted by Daisym on April 20, 2011, at 23:35:40
In reply to Anyone have DID-NOS with ego states? + Question, posted by rainangel85 on April 20, 2011, at 20:36:46
Alan Schore talks about frozen age states and postulates that these parts can "grow up" during therapy. So it wouldn't surprise me to hear about changes from your parts.
I think I know what you mean about "letting" a part talk directly. It is weird and disorienting and for me, pretty embarrassing. Plus I find it scary to get taken over like that. But...when I have gotten out of my own way, it can be very revealing to just let stuff come out unedited. I've shocked myself with memories from different parts and "their" feelings. Sometimes I joke with my therapist that we need to have family meetings.
I don't consider myself DID. I think I have different ages holding different memories due to the trauma inflicted at those ages. What worked for me at the beginning was to try a "two voice" writing - switching off between myself and a younger part. And then I read it - both parts, in therapy. Eventually my therapist would ask, "can that part talk directly to me?" Wow - it was really scary to just let it happen. And it is still pretty hard. But those parts need to be heard and held and soothed and listened to. I know now that all of me has to heal.
It it takes a long time. But I think if you let yourself, you'll find it helpful to talk from those parts.
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