Posted by TherapyGirl on March 9, 2011, at 14:26:16
We'll call her T3. She's a little older than I am, much calmer than T2, more like T1, except she has more tools at her disposal (energy work, CBT, EMDR, etc.). I think it went okay. She wanted to focus on my grief rather than do all the normal intake stuff today, which I appreciated. It was not hard exactly, but exhausting. The grief itself is exhausting.
One thing was that she asked me to tell her about my father. I went completely blank, then ended up mostly talking about his work. At the end though I surprised myself by saying, "He would have been a better parent if he had not been married to my mother."
Some of you may remember that she is the abuser in my family and she kept that up during my father's hospital stay the week before he died. She yelled at him constantly, refused pain meds on his behalf and my brothers ultimately stepped in to limit her time with him.
I had not thought before about the parent he would have been without her. I think I'll spend some time writing about that.
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