Posted by gardenergirl on January 12, 2011, at 12:33:49
In reply to Re: My story - long » gardenergirl, posted by Daisym on January 11, 2011, at 0:39:20
> And it is hard to admit that I really don't want to know about his thought processes - it feels selfish.
I can understand that. You are a warm, empathetic, caring person, after all. I suppose it is selfish in a way, in a strict sense of the word. That word is loaded, though. I think that the therapy relationship is one in which it's okay, perhaps even useful for the client to be selfish, or perhaps self-focused. But since we are humans and relational beings, and therapy is intimate, we care about our therapists, too, and about their needs. It's complex.
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> I think we all believe we are too self-aware to let our "stuff" get in the way of our work with clients - even though we also seem to be alert to our own transference and counter-transference feelings.I agree. And I think we want to be totally self-aware, but I guess blind spots are called blind spots for a reason, eh? :)
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> How would you feel about role playing a repeat of a conversation that didn't go well?I think I'd feel incredibly self-conscious (ha! that's an ironic phrase!) and would probably hate it. I hate role-play in general. It seems to put too much focus for my comfort on the sense of being observed, sort of on display. I really, really hate becoming aware of that feeling. I'd rather be more in the moment.
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