Posted by sigismund on August 20, 2010, at 23:06:54
In reply to Natural growth and development through therapy, posted by vwoolf on August 19, 2010, at 6:45:04
I'm not in therapy any more. It's many years ago now.
It was certainly psychodynamic therapy and not psychoanalysis, although I've no real idea of the difference.
The books she had came from the Tavistock and that part of the British psychoanalytic thingo that did child psychotherapy. Winnicott, Bion, Margaret Mahler. Those sort of people.That feeling of feeling committed to a role one would rather (at least in some senses) avoid is very interesting.
I'm unclear now as to the answer to
>Did it change for you over time? Did it begin to feel as if it you were less out of control?
because it didn't happen all the time though when it did it would last perhaps a week, meaning 5 sessions.
If I was to guess about the effect it had on me, I'd say I found it easier to accept difference, that I was so resigned and ground down by the horrible business that I no longer cared who was in control.
I'm certain it improved my parenting, as it bloody well should have, it being so painful.
After enough of this you can wonder if you are interesting enough to justify it.
Let's talk about Hitler and Stalin instead, which I did, they being infinitely more interesting :)What I'd wish for my kids is to be transparent, just there, aware and neutral, watching....not being as if they are talking to someone not there, not reacting to old patterns that are no longer relevant, not wasting precious youth on such a scrambled lot of suffering whicht was all about something so sterile....who is in control.
And perhaps I have reason to feel more confident about their future.
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