Posted by emmanuel98 on August 13, 2010, at 21:53:50
In reply to Re: T's + daughters + weddings... » widget, posted by Annierose on August 13, 2010, at 21:05:36
My T said I didn't love him because I didn't really know him. I told him I loved him the way my daughter loved me. That's not love, he said, that's dependence. Love means putting another's needs before your own. That's not what therapy is about.
It's hard to describe how painful my feelings of love for him have been. It feels so unrequited. He says he cares about me, I matter to him, I am important to his life, that he sees more of me and thinks about me more often than he does many good friends.
But I am always conscious of the ways I am excluded, the things he won't tell me about himself, the time he came to work with a new car, an important purchase I knew nothing about and that he wouldn't want to talk about with me.
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