Posted by violette on August 3, 2010, at 15:08:23
In reply to Re: I want to talk about something » vwoolf, posted by Dinah on August 3, 2010, at 13:24:53
Hmmm. I used to do that magical thinking, less now, but my 'fate' thoughts only related to seeing positive outcomes. My T and I laugh because he thinks everything is chance and I joke about fate..rather than take it seriously...but I am familar with this concept...
Could you use your magical thinking traits to come up with positive outcomes?
> I think I can say that I've started being as late for therapy as I am for everything else in my life. I was always on time before. And while I used to want to call for extra sessions, now I'm more likely to consider that there are other things I maybe ought to be doing in the mornings twice a week.
I tend to agree with VWoof about unconscious reasons. When I felt like not going to therapy a couple times, I realized it was because of fear of the growing attachment.
> I still occasionally want to call my therapist between sessions, but more and more I'm handling things on my own.
Could it mean that you have some fears of not needing him? I think attachment is one of the most ambivalent feelings for many people, as this seems to be discussed alot among therapy patients-fear of dependence, fear of independence, fear of being too attached..fear of being unattached...fear of even being attached.
> I'm scared about what that might mean. And I'm sort of afraid to even mention it.
It might mean you are afraid of a loss of the attachment if you are improving to the point where you no longer 'need' him? And that if you do improve to a point, that the potential loss scares you-and if you bring up those feelings to him, you and he will end up discussing that you are starting to feel you may not be needing him as much as before? And he might confirm this by wanting to explore termination thoughts?
Well now after I wrote that, I couldn't think of many ways to turn the magical thinking to determine potential positive outcomes. Except that it could result in your confrontation of your fears...which isn't really a 'fate thing'...either way, I'd accept the fate thoughts and that might make them easier to deal with and eventually come to terms with them.
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