Posted by TherapyGirl on July 18, 2010, at 19:42:29
In reply to Re: Transition with Old T not really working for me..., posted by Dinah on July 16, 2010, at 14:01:02
Thanks, Dinah. I totally agree about her telling me she's coming to town when she has no plans to see me. Here is our email exchange about that:
Hi, T:
Thanks for the phone call this morning. It was good to catch up with you.I've been thinking about this a lot and I think I would prefer for you not to tell me when you are in the area unless you have time to see me. I get why you're telling me, but I think the chance of running into you is so minuscule that it will be easier for me if I just don't know. I hope you understand.
Thanks.
TGThat makes perfect sense. I was not thinking of it from that perspective and appreciate your letting me know what you need.
It was good to talk with you - look forward to next time.
T
So one problem is solved. I don't know what to do about the rest of it. I'm trying to figure out if it's more painful to stay in contact with her under these new more restrictive conditions or to cut loose. I don't have an answer for that yet.
New T is great, really. I just don't quite have enough of a connection to her to get very far with the grief thing. It will come, I know, and she's been good about bringing that up. I really do like her.
TG
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