Posted by Dinah on June 30, 2010, at 16:04:12
In reply to Re: if T lies to you in your interest, is it lying? » Dinah, posted by deerock on June 30, 2010, at 14:55:40
It wasn't anything that hurt me. In fact, I brought it up, and he just agreed. We had been talking about how therapists present themselves in ads. A therapist who had advertised that he liked to work with clients who are motivated to change. I laughed and said that he, my therapist, might have written the same thing when we first started and that he was probably very frustrated with me. He acknowledged that he was at times, until he realized that as long as he pushed me to change I would resist. He's often told me that I've helped him grow as a therapist from what he's learned in treating me.
I often say that therapy works on me like water on rock. As I bring in things from my real life, or as we work through things in the therapeutic relationship, we have conversations. My therapist never is very directive, but in talking about things.... Hmmmm... I'd say he brings out healthier ways to view things, but my therapist is way too smart to point out "healthier" ways of viewing things. :) He more mentions alternatives, and backs off immediately if I argue. Over time, as we discuss a variety of incidents, I see patterns emerge. I remember things he's said in the past, and see them apply to new situations. I grow to change my views and my ways of thinking. Over time. Slowly.
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