Posted by Dinah on June 28, 2010, at 9:38:16
In reply to last session! (freaking out)- sorry may trigger!, posted by brokenpuppet on June 27, 2010, at 3:01:23
Your feelings sound perfectly understandable to me. Even if you have reached peace about it, as the final moment comes, of course it's terrifying and painful.
Losses are no less painful if we choose them. Sometimes I think they're even more painful.
My experience has been that once that initial shock is over, some of the peace seeps back. Perhaps that will be true for you as well.
My therapist always says that there is no way to get through grief without feeling pain. I can't give you any advice about final sessions. I've never done a good one. But a good general strategy for me has been to recognize that whatever feelings I'm feeling are ok to feel and have a purpose. That if I feel the pain, that the pain is telling me that I am losing something I care about. That if I don't feel the pain, then my brain feels it needs to shield me right now. Etc etc.
Not that I'm all that good putting it into practice. In practice I live avoidance.
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