Posted by Dinah on June 28, 2010, at 9:31:31
In reply to Re: I still love my therapist, posted by widget on June 28, 2010, at 3:12:37
He sounds like a professional with honor and compassion. It's hard not to love someone like that.
I think it's possible to love more than one person at one time. Otherwise non-only children would be in a real fix. You can love both of them in similar, but of course not identical ways. Because they play different roles in your life, and are different people.
Marriage doesn't mean never having feelings for anyone else. It means making a commitment not to act on feelings in such a way that would dishonor your marriage or disrespect your husband. I don't think discussing your feelings with your therapist in a therapy environment does either.
You can love your husband by recognizing that he is the man you are building your life with, and by working to keep your relationship as healthy and meaningful as possible (barring major breaches of the marital contract on his part).
You can love your therapist by striving to do your best in therapy, and by honoring his integrity in setting boundaries. It sounds as if he does "love" you in the way a therapist loves clients he cares for.
You are lucky enough to have a husband you love to build a life with. And a therapist you love to help you build that life with your husband, by helping you to be healthy and to learn to have a healthy relationship.
Not half bad really.
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