Posted by rnny on May 20, 2010, at 20:38:16
In reply to Leaving therapy - conflict, posted by brokenpuppet on May 20, 2010, at 18:09:59
Hello and welcome!
You are terrified but the good news is that you may have the opportunity to go back and see the T (therapist) after your 'leave of absence'. I saw a T for a long time who retired but during our time together I remember once telling her I needed some time off, and she said that OK. That therapy doesn't have to be one long trainride from beginning to end with no stops in between. I was getting sick of needing a T at that time and resented someone who although was my T was otherwise a perfect stranger and here I was depending on them for my life so to speak!
Talk to your T about the possibility of coming back. Do some focus work on that. Talk about this maybe being a 'leave of absence' vs. permanent termination. If you have the thought that you still have a soft place to fall, that might help you with this new trial period in your life.
Good luck. One thing I have learned in therapy (I found another one after the earlier mentioned retired) is that therapy is not supposed to be forever. A good therapist gets us to stand on our own two feet without them. For some that takes longer and for some it can be done in a short period of time. One is not better than the other. I am someone with alot of issues and so therapy is something I feel I need. I kind of feel I may need it for life, but who knows?
Talk to your T about how you would go about seeing her again in the future. You can even ask her for some names of T's in the event she has retired or moved. I am not suggesting those things are going to happen but for example if she no longer takes your insurance or is no longer on a sliding scale. Whatever the case may be. Talk about all the possibilities.
I am a very detailed oriented person so the more facts I have the better. But do what works for you.
Good luck.
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