Posted by emilyp on April 26, 2010, at 12:51:16
In reply to Re: nothing helps, posted by morganator on April 25, 2010, at 0:36:51
I don't mean to be rude, but in my opinion, I agree with your assessment: you are coming off arrogant and unwilling to hear other people.
Some people may agree with you; others may not. Some may partially agree with you. At the same time, isn't it possible that some people want to get on with their lives and not go back to their childhood. I had an alcoholic mother and a father who traveled all the time. Was my childhood perfect - not at all. Did my parents love me - yes, but in the way they could. Did it affect my depression - yes, But was it also biological - yes. Furthermore, despite my parents issues, they had a 40 year marriage and were best friends. So while they each had their own flaws, I also had something to emulate.
Having said all that, both of my parents have passed away. Thus, I need to figure out how to move on in life and for me, I don't think digging up issues from my childhood will help. For me (and I am only speaking for myself), that is a crutch - a way to play a victim and not take the necessary actions. Even if it is true, I cannot do anything about it and moaning over it will not help me with the depression. So, my decision is to work on life skills that I can have an effect on - ones that rely on the people currently in my life and where it will make my life better. My solution also involves medication, which helps a lot.
Pushing this belief that individuals cannot make improvements or even get better if they don't focus on their childhood is short-sighted and unfair to those who believe otherwise.
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