Posted by Emily Elizabeth on April 22, 2010, at 21:06:14
In reply to 'Aaah, I don't want to hear about the food'!, posted by rnny on April 20, 2010, at 23:01:08
> I have a binge eating disorder and for the first time was discussing this with the new T. I mentioned something I had eaten and was about to say what I had eaten before that and she blurts out, hand up, "Aaah, I don't want to hear about the food".
Is it possible that you misinterpreted her intention? Perhaps she was trying to get you to focus on emotions etc. rather than focusing on the specifics of what foods you ate.
I find that terribly unprofessional and intend on discussing it with her next week. My response to her was "Oh, are you a binge eater yourself?" because some binge eaters don't want to hear about food by name because it makes them want to binge. She said she wasn't but I find that reaction unacceptable and as usual I don't discover these things until after the fact.
Regardless of whether she had a different intention or not, I do think you should share your reaction with her.
I mean during it I found it very unacceptable but I was more in the groove, the "we're in therapy right now" mentality. Well, I am the person behind the mask that was grooving and she is going to be getting to know the real me. I have hired her as a consultant to help me with my mental, emotional and psychological issues and that includes topics she may find distasteful. (No pun intended), haha. I also indicated the romantic habits of someone I had dated and then apologized for perhaps giving too much detail and she said, "Well that's OK if you tell me here in therapy but say I was over at your house and we were having tea, that is not something you would want to share"
Two different things come to mind: Maybe she was joking. The other option is that she thinks you might be prone to inappropriate discolsures in social settings and was trying to give you feedback.
and I was thinking, "What the heck"? It was just a reference to a romantic gesture!. I mean she's a woman, I am a woman. . I know she said that right after I said, "Oops, sorry about that" when I blurted out myself something about Dan's romantic side. I understand fully I am not there to discuss men per se with her but as a T I did not think twice about saying something about a man I had dated. And if I was having tea with another woman I would most definitely discuss a man's romantic side if his name came up whether I knew her well or not. I mean what else is there to talk about? The tea?It sounds like you are not very fond of this T. How long have you seen her? Is she worth giving a chance or not? I have a good relationship with my T and she said something that bothered me a little last week. But since I like her, it was easy for me to say to myself, "well, that probably came out wrong." When you don't have a good relationship w/ T, those little things are harder to move past.
So, I guess my major advice to you is to think about whether this T is someone you want to work with or not. There are other T's out there--perhaps there is someone you'll "click with" more.
Best,
EE
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