Posted by workinprogress on April 13, 2010, at 0:02:18
In reply to your feelings, posted by rnny on April 12, 2010, at 18:52:26
I, as much as I might want to beat myself up for my feelings, have come to believe what my T always says about this subject. Feelings are just feelings, they can't be wrong or bad. It is in the acting/behavior where that distinction could be made. More likely than not (outside of things like murder) my T would be likely to say, "maybe not the best choice or not a good choice.
Now, that's not to say that you or I or many of us weren't taught that our feelings were bad. I was certainly taught that, so it's one on the list of many things I'm unlearning.
> I was in a group therapy where the session took an interesting twist. The psychologist said that anyone has the capacity to "feel" like they could kill someone given the right circumstances. However he went on to say that the majority of people do not act on such feelings and that in effect is the difference between some people who do kill others and some who do not. The self control, self retraint. One woman in the group therapy said she disagreed because she could never "feel" that way. I chimed in that I agreed with the group leader and believed anyone was capable of "feeling" that way but that there was a big difference between what you feel and how you act. So this is my question: Do you believe that "feeling" some things are wrong? That morally, ethically and even psychologically it is wrong to "feel" certain things? I will start with an answer. I have to be honest and say I do think it wrong to feel certain things. Next?
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