Posted by Dinah on February 27, 2010, at 10:42:31
In reply to can someone explain: why I protect my father, posted by floatingbridge on February 27, 2010, at 3:05:18
I think Mystickangaroo's idea is really a good one. I often think it's harder to lose a parent we didn't have a good relationship with. The feelings are so much more complex, and the loss and grief are more indirect.
But if your mother was depressed and withdrawn (which makes a certain amount of sense given your father's personality) and your father was explosive and raging, might it have felt a lot safer to put the anger you rightly felt at both parents entirely on your mother? Who was unlikely to retaliate in a way that would endanger you?
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