Posted by sigismund on February 22, 2010, at 22:27:47
In reply to Re: Dealing with negativity » Sigismund, posted by Dinah on February 22, 2010, at 9:50:42
I think for the Vietnamese family is what comes first.
A lot of child rearing in my youth had to do with fitting people for certain ideas of respectability in middle class society.
Ridiculous things like not wearing cardigans (too like shop assistants), not saying 'Pleased to meet you' instead of 'How do you do?' (too working class, not that such quasi-Marxist terms were acceptable) and saying 'May I have the butter please?' rather than 'Can I have the butter?'.
(I have heard that some Europeans simply say 'Pass the butter'.)I can't imagine any Vietnamese person thinking such things were worth a fight in the family, though what would I know?
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