Posted by Dinah on February 21, 2010, at 8:12:54
In reply to struggling with T, posted by blahblahblah on February 21, 2010, at 1:32:25
How does she feel about the messaging when you drink? I think it's something that would concern my therapist.
I'm trying to remember. Is the acceptance that feelings are just feelings part of mindfulness? It *feels* as if you are dying and she's the only one who can make it better. But the feeling is a feeling, not a fact. The only way I know to feel better at all is to separate myself from the feelings. To observe them and recognize them and honor them, but to recognize that feeling something doesn't make it so. To say to myself "I am having the feeling that I am dying" instead of saying to myself "I am dying"
I tend to believe myself that my therapist can make it all better. And every time I am disappointed. He can't make it all better. There are times he can help in certain ways. And there are times he can't. In the end, we all have to help ourselves. Our therapists can help us help ourselves. They can join us in our pain and our struggles so that it isn't so lonely or helpless. But they can't make it all better.
Is the drinking interfering with your life? Is it something you need outside help with, apart from your therapist?
Does your therapist have the skills necessary to help you move past the helplessness of your feelings for her? Not all therapists do, and the result is usually a lot of pain for a client.
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