Posted by Dinah on February 12, 2010, at 20:14:18
In reply to Re: My therapist says I'm neurotic » Dinah, posted by fleeting flutterby on February 12, 2010, at 14:47:54
I have to be honest and admit that I'm almost never calm, and am easily offended. I probably assume that offense was meant even when there was no intent. I'm as sensitive to criticism or abandonment as anyone. I do try to keep that in mind, and step back when I feel unloved and insulted. So that I don't actually make myself unloved and the object of insult by unwarranted sulking. I don't always succeed. :(
I was very upset today because my therapist saw my description of stupid therapy exercises as a jibe at him. Not that he was offended. He just acknowledged a hit. But it wasn't meant as a jibe at him. It was meant at a jibe at stupid therapy exercises, and intended as something we could agree to disagree about in a friendly manner. Perhaps neither of us were at our tip top best today.
Sometimes even things that are funny continue to sting a bit. Like the person who saw a picture of me when I was in my early twenties and said "Hey! You used to be pretty!" And there is a bit of an ouch to a conversation my therapist and I once had about the relative temptations of my income stream vs. my adoration.
But this one, no. I'm pretty sure he didn't mean it in a bad way. And he'd be the first to say he's neurotic too. He's not shy about using the term with men. :)
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