Posted by Dinah on February 9, 2010, at 12:02:15
In reply to Still Feel Betrayed By T, posted by sassyfrancesca on February 9, 2010, at 9:10:07
Maybe he didn't do that because the boundaries are already so blurred. If he had reduced the fee, or let you carry a balance, it would be further blurring of the boundaries and led you to believe that he cared about you in ways other than a therapist cares about a client.
In being so firm on this point, perhaps he is using this situation to make the boundaries absolutely clear. He is your therapist, he sees you as your therapist, and your relationship is a professional, not a personal one.
In the end, wouldn't it be a better thing for you to work towards engaging in a relationship that can be more mutual than the therapy relationship ever can be?
I know it hurts. I understand how much it hurts. And the message of exactly where the boundaries lie would really really hurt me too.
I think the thing that is even worse was to allow you to spend so much money you really couldn't afford to see him all this time. Did he know how much his fees were eating away your capital?
poster:Dinah
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