Posted by TherapyGirl on January 23, 2010, at 17:40:01
In reply to Re: I saw T tonight!, posted by rnny on January 23, 2010, at 0:37:23
Yeah, I know your T handled it very differently and I don't have the answers to your questions, I'm afraid. I do know there is some latitude for Ts to figure out what boundaries they are comfortable with. I know many Ts do not hug their clients, yet that was a huge part of my therapy. Because for years and years and years I didn't hug anyone, so when I finally asked T for a hug, it was a major breakthrough.
All I can tell you is that this transition to our post-therapy relationship has been easier so far than I imagined. No, we're not getting drunk together and talking about our sex lives. She shares *slightly* more about her life than she did before. But we're also not having therapy in a restaurant.
So I don't know, except this approach is working for me and I'm grateful I have a T who agreed to it. Part of the reason I am seeing her every 3 weeks right now is because after the next time, she will be moving to the other side of the state. This was her way of letting me slowly get used to life without her, rather than having the abrupt no contact. I suspect some of her flexibility on these issues has to do with her own experience with grieving her husband's death, but I don't know for sure.
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