Re: T gives me ultimatum

Posted by annierose on January 19, 2010, at 13:18:31

In reply to Re: T gives me ultimatum » obsidian, posted by sassyfrancesca on January 19, 2010, at 13:08:45

I agree with Sassy. You are blaming your bad feelings on your therapist but forgetting your responsibility in creating the dynamic.
Is what she is asking of you --- not calling her names --- so difficult? If this is the first time you have ever called someone a name, then it shouldn't be a problem. In your posts, there is a sense of attacking your therapist. All she is trying to do is help you see ways you currently interact that might interfere with your full potential with others.
Imagine this scenario: A husband notices his wife burnt dinner. "You are so stupid. Couldn't you keep a better eye on the dinner?"

Wife: I do not like being called names. It's not helpful to our relationship.
Husband: Well that's so stupid. I don't care if it hurt your feelings. I hardly ever call you names (so it shouldn't matter).
But it does.

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