Posted by malepatient on January 12, 2010, at 21:16:37
Well maybe not love but surely sort of infatuation, crush? The first time I met my current therapist I was smitten. I have seen other therapists over the years and never had this type of reaction. She is about my age and extremely attractive (at least to me). We seem to have this connect from day one and I have been able to spill my guts and tell her all my darkest secrets. Not so with the other therapists.
However, I found myself getting closer and closer to her. I started getting separation anxiety, fantasizing about her, getting that "feeling". I would love to have her hug me or hold me. I put my hand on her back when leaving the other day but later apologized for being inappropriate.
I finally told her how I felt and she has handled it well and we are going to discuss it more. However, my fear is that by revealing my feelings it will change the "dynamics" of the relationship which I do not want. I fear she will start holding things back to "cool" me down. I do not want to screw this up. She is the best therapist I have ever had. I think I can get through this. Any suggestions to not screw up this patient doctor relationship?
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