Posted by Dinah on December 19, 2009, at 8:07:11
In reply to Re: I acted on a fantasy in therapy, posted by workinprogress on December 19, 2009, at 3:03:41
Now you see, that's what my therapist loves about Babble.
I wasn't thinking in that direction at all, but as soon as you said it I realized that you were right.
I'm not letting him off the hook for not being there or anything. But related to my post above, I have been in my head an awful lot, and I noticed myself that the session had become a recitation of the week's events. What suddenly came back to me is that I was not at all connected to *him* and some of the things he said in session had indicated he realized that.
Maybe the impulsive acting out of a fantasy I'd already described to him was my way of getting his focus and my focus recentered.
The fantasy isn't always about telling him to focus on me. Sometimes it's about sitting at his feet and laying my head against his knee. Maybe having him lightly stroke my hair. Obviously that one I won't act out because I'm way too old for my head to be at the proper height. :) And I'm reasonably sure he wouldn't consider it appropriate to stroke my hair.
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