Posted by Nadezda on December 12, 2009, at 17:17:00
In reply to trust and therapeautic alliance, posted by deerock on December 12, 2009, at 9:28:57
Could you explain how her fear of you would undermine your trust in her? I can see how it might undermine your confidence that you can control your anger, or that you might fear that if you lost control again, the working alliance could be permanently ruptured. If so, that might be a question you really need to discuss with her.
It seems that she had a response immediately after you told her yet is open to continuing.. Her response could give you valuable information about how scary you are when you're enraged, assuming you had decided that you could trust her previously.
If I recall correctlly, she didn't say definitely that she couldn't work with you, but that she had some concerns. She may have thought that, given your anger, you might feel that you couldn't work with her-- or that your anger might get in the way in the future. Or she might be concerned that it's a sign that you don't trust her enough for the work to continue.
Without discussing it further with her, even if you do terminate, you won't have much understanding of what really happened.
Nadezda
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