Posted by lingonberry on November 23, 2009, at 10:14:51
In reply to Re: in the office tetrix, posted by IntendedMispelling on November 23, 2009, at 8:27:28
> I wasn't being sarcastic at all. What do you mean not surprised? (humor?) Maybe this is a case where honesty sounds like sarcasm because straightforward utterances are used so frequently in sarcastic cultures (like the one were in) to mock others.
I think you hit the nail on the head.
> I wrote that because I sensed that tetrix was having validation issues. And when you have a therapist who isn't really helping you then you have to trust yourself.
I thought so too. I thought you (tetrix) really nailed it, using almost the exact words too.
> You can't rely on the therapist to say, "oh no, I'm not a liar, I'm here to help you."
Or what about; "Youre absolutely right. Im a liar. I´m lying once in a while." (smile) This is exactly why I had trust issues with my T. There was a time when I couldnt trust myself, neither my T. I felt really trapped.
> On the other hand sometimes its still nice when your perceptions are validated. Such as in this case where the question of dead flowers literally made a top ten list of signs of a bad therapist.
One part of me thinks (like emilyp said) therapists are just like everyone else, human. But sometimes we have to look for more than one sign before we me make any decisions. The problem is that increased anxiety in therapy can be a good sign, that "it" works, and therefore evoke anxiety. If thats the case, the flower issues can be an unconscious way out of a well functioning therapy. But, it can also be the other way round. And it is (IMO) very frightening to open the door to the past and most clients are struggling longing for intimacy, trying to reach out to the world, and on the other hand we have this internal bad objects striving for status quo. It can be a little bit tricky.
> I have my own style but I assure you it has nothing to do with sarcasm.Your style is nice. Im sorry if I offended you. It was not my intention all.
Lingonberry
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