Posted by softheprairie on November 18, 2009, at 14:48:55
In reply to paying for therapy, posted by deerock on November 17, 2009, at 13:04:28
> hi there, i have a question. if you get into a discussion with your therapist about paying for therapy, say it takes 25 minutes, half a session. its a logistics discussion. how much can you pay, what you will pay, what is reasonable, etc.
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> do you pay your therapist for the time you spend discussing this? i assume the common answer is yes.
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> but lawyers will not charge you for a consult during the time they spend talking about their fees, etc. and therapy that is paid for should be spent doing therapy, not discussing money.
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> im tempted to ask for time outside of our regular session to discuss these issues but i have a feeling that common practice is to discuss this while you are in session with your therapist and paying them for their time.
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> curious if others have thoughts on this or experience with it or maybe even have had the same feeling that "why should i pay this person to talk to me about how much im paying them.."
>Even though it sucks, I feel obliged to follow the norms for the therapy industry, which, I agree, are probably not the norms for the legal field.
I have been very embarassed to talk about money in therapy, which is especially bad when a lot of my overall depression, stress, and suicidal ideation was about money. Also, my feelings about my therapist had to do with money and my jealousy of him, or feeling like he didn't care about me if he didn't offer me a lower copay. I have gotten better at talking about money over the years, but I still don't talk about how I think about him and money.
Here are some books that interest me. So far, I haven't gotten them, due to...money, lol. Maybe I will buy them, sometime. (They aren't in my area libraries' collections, and I have been too embarassed to use interlibrary loan, since I used to work at the library and personally know the people who do interlibrary loan in my geographical area.)
The target audience is therapists, so I'm not sure how practical these books are for clients, but I do get the feeling from them that I'm not alone in stress over money & therapy.
"The Last Taboo: Money as Symbol & Reality in Psychotherapy & Psychoanalysis" edited by Krueger, 1986.
"Money Matters: The Fee in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis" by Herron and Welt, 1992.
This third one I did check out around four or five years ago; it was in the collection of my local library. "For Love or Money: The Fee in Feminist Therapy" edited by Hill and Kaschak, 2000.
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