Posted by Dinah on November 2, 2009, at 17:36:56
In reply to Re: My pdoc isn't so great after all, posted by Deneb on November 2, 2009, at 17:16:04
Deneb, everyone gets disappointed in other people they care about. If she didn't care how could you disappoint her?
Don't fight the thoughts. Just try coaxing other thoughts in alongside them. I remember your therapist told you very positive things not too long ago. In fact, didn't she say positive things when she cut down your session frequency?
Why don't you post some of the many positive things she's said about you? Why don't you write down how long she's been here for you, and all the ways she's shown she does care. Even if she does have rather firm boundaries, and isn't very warm. You said she was like another mother to you. People who have firm boundaries and who aren't very warm can be very caring in their own ways. How has she been caring to you?
I can see where you'd want to feel badly about her. But she's been an important part of your life for a long time. Even if you decide to move on, is it in your best interests to end up hating someone who was so important to you? Or remembering only one statement she made to you?
What else has she said to you?
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