Posted by Nadezda on October 30, 2009, at 8:12:52
In reply to Re: Pdoc has lost hope for me HELP!, posted by Emily Elizabeth on October 29, 2009, at 21:07:49
Hi, Deneb.
I'm so sorry that your pdoc reacted as she did. I really agree with what others have said: you need someone with more and deeper training in doing psychotherapy than your pdoc seems to be. I know she's incredibly important to you and that you love and depend on her, and have seen her for years.
It's going to seem as if things are falling apart--but THEY AREN'T.
This is a very turbulent time in your life, and here on babble-- a convergence that is very difficult-- I know-- but I very much hope and wish that you can hold onto the good thoughts that you were having--for example, just the other night about your astronomy group. There is so much that you can do!
Some lives take a different path-- some people find themselves in unusual ways-- and find their way back to the beaten path by unexpected means. I know you can do this. If college and studies are what's right for you-- you'll find your way to them. And you will find a different and perhaps more attuned therapist-- who can see how much hope there is for you.
I've never thought there was no hope for you! Where there's life, there's hope-- and I do really mean this-- even if it is a cliche. You are a very alive, real, dynamic person-- and there's absolutely no reason to give up on you. It would be criminal to say that there's no hope for you.
Maybe your pdoc realistically feels, as Emily Elizabeth and others have said, that she's reached the end of what she personally is trained and able to teach and guide you with. But that doesn't mean that YOU are without promise and a good future.
Yes, I know this is a very hard time-- but what' s happening is not your fault. Yes, school has not gone well-- but sometimes people aren't ready, aren't able. It isn't your fault. I had terrible trouble getting through college-- but I've gone on to get a PhD. Trouble in college doesn't prevent you from achieving whatever you want. In time. And what's happening here is not necessarily the end of babble-- or of Dr Bob. He'll be okay. You can be okay, too. We all can cope with this loss-- and with what the future brings.
You've always been constructive at heart.. I know there are times when you've struggled with things here-- but you always remain helpful and open. And those are great strengths and sources of hope.
So try to take it very slow. I hope you're taking care of yourself-- that you're in a place where you're okay-- and that you'll try to remember that even thought things look bleak and feel as if they're falling apart-- they aren't. We all can hold together.
Nadezda
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