Posted by elizabeth31 on October 28, 2009, at 18:50:08
In reply to Question about a therpaist's diagnosis, posted by alan7065 on October 27, 2009, at 17:13:32
Hi, first of all I'm so sorry to hear about your recent job situation....this economy decline has really effected so many people negatively and I can imagine how difficult it must have been to be laid off from your job *especially when it sounds like your supervisor was even acknowledging you were doing a good job and showed potential* I imagine it must be hard to not take their decision to let you go versus others personally...but although you'll probably never know the other side of the situation, I bet it was a difficult choice for your boss to make this decision and although its not comforting now, I imagine there are a lot of politics involved with employees contracts and seniority although unfair to the lower ranking people, ultimately everyone can appreciate the loyalty of the gesture.
So, the general point I would stress to you to give yourself a little room here to be upset about your recent loss...trust me, no one likes change in life and its so much worse when these changes are made by other people for you! I think most people in your situation would feel sad and show symptoms of depression during a time like this...so don't be so hard and critical of yourself and assume youre heading down the same path. As far as your questions about your therapist, my personal opinion after reading your post was that you're possibly displacing your anger and feeling of lack of control in life towards your therapist. It may seem like a little thing, but you challenging your therapists opinion would at least possibly help you feel ok on the inside and back in control of your situation of something...I am just trying to think of how I would react in your same situation and offering my thoughts....I think he was trying to help you out and recognized that because you're going through difficult times that his position as your therapist would shift more towards being more direct with his guidance. I'm sure he has your best interest in mind, right? Were you possibly feeling defensive towards him because you felt he was judging you unfairly and perhaps you felt embarrassed to admit you lost your job again because there appears to be a pattern now with your jobs that you feel has labeled you into a certain category....I would encourage you to keep talking to your therapist about these topics and let your feelings surface in that safe environment. Its ok to be depressed about bad life circumstances that occur to us all...I would like to think your therapist knowing your history struggling with depression is being more proactive towards keeping you on the right track...and instead of thinking he assumes negatively about you because of his suggestions, you should think about the position that maybe he seriously cares about helping you get through this situation.
All of us in therapy at times must take a step back from things and realize that your therapists job is to provide constructive unbiased help towards objective decision making and because of his lack of personal involvement with the details, it would reason that its worth at least considering. He should be given the respect deserved as he was providing you with what he saw best as the most reasonable answers to difficult questions and he wouldnt be doing his job if he was just saying things to make you feel better all the time either.
Anyways, I just wanted to give you some feedback and offer you some encouragement here....congrats on starting your new job and I hope things go well for you there! Think of all the excitement and new things you have to look forward to at this new job and the fact you found a new job so easily speaks well for your qualifications and you should feel good about your resume credentials. One last thing, I would encourage you to call your psychiatrist who's prescribing you the pristiq....just give him/her an update on your concerns and perhaps this might be a time where you could benefit from an increased dose or a different medication? Take care of yourself and keep us posted on how you're doing:)
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