Posted by 10derHeart on October 21, 2009, at 0:00:09
In reply to Re: Recording session- in secret » MAxime, posted by moonshadow on October 20, 2009, at 17:36:05
Hi Moonshadow,
I don't have time to elaborate right now, but I will come back and do that as soon as I can manage to... I did want to say you are not that weird. I record all of my sessions. Have been on and off, for several years now. My T. knows and has no problem at all. He knows and appears to understand about therapy amnesia. But after a long time where I didn't record, i did start to record phone sessions (we are geographically separated now) **without** telling him (Lord only knows what I was thinking....too embarrassed to admit I still needed/wannted to...?) Did that for about 3 sessions - then felt so guilty, I did tell him. He was NOT pleased, though we have been together 5 years, and he had agreed to allow it before, and does allow it again now. It was the lack of respect and trust I showed by doing it secretly those few times. This caused a painful incident a couple months back, where he was angry and hurt, too. We got past it, but it sucked and I hate to this day I chose to do that without asking first. Integrity and trust are everything to me, not to mention discussing it and my profuse apologies were soooo uncomfortable for both of us.
I really, really hope you don't do it secretly. She will not likely think you are weird, just for asking. She can always say no, and even that should be a valuable conversation. Anyway...I can expand more, another time.
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