Posted by Nadezda on October 3, 2009, at 17:57:58
In reply to Re: My T is having sex before my session, posted by Leo Brazil on October 3, 2009, at 15:08:23
I'd just like to point out how easy it is to believe one's inferences, and how easy, once you have a belief (or suspicion), it is to find confirmatory evidence-- without being able to see that this evidence is highly influenced by your prior assumption.
Messy hair, and a hot room do not indicate that someone is having sex. They may indicate that they brushed against something on a shelf, rubbed their head in thought, we out in the wind earlier in the day, and haven't looked into a mirror. A hot room may mean that someone was cold and wanted the heat up, or someone thinks it's a cooler day than you do, or is less sensitive to temperature changes. None of these things is an indication that anyone had sex. Nor is a smile-- people smile for lots of reasons other than having had sex.
But I do think you need to discuss this belief with your current T or, more likely, with your next T. I have a feeling it's an important idea that you might need to explore.
Nadezda
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