Posted by Garnet71 on September 5, 2009, at 12:00:29
In reply to One step more » peddidle, posted by Dinah on September 5, 2009, at 10:30:22
"The problem is that you are experiencing pain now, and remembering all the pain you've ever experienced before, and projecting it forward to a lifetime of pain." - Dinah
I think I rank this up there as one of the most useful pieces of advice I've heard on this forum.
Yes, when you look ahead in the future (or live in the future) in context of the pain, it can seem hopeless. I once read that people who have had childhood trauma often live in the past or the future, rather than the present. In fact, many of us have warped concepts of time. Some due to growing up repressing and dissassociating... amnesia can contribute to this 'habit'.
Medication techniques may be useful in learning to live more in the present. If you google 'meditation living in the present', or something similar, you will find them. Easier said than done, I know. While I once was able to indulge in meditation regularly, now anxiety prevents me from doing so. But it's always worth a try.
Hope you feel better soon, Peddidle.
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But that's not the way it is. Pain waxes and wanes. You've experienced good times before. And you will experience them again.So when you're feeling this much pain, don't look far into the future. Your view isn't clear from where you are. Just grit your teeth and make it through today. Do what you can to make your pain better today, without creating problems that will cause you pain tomorrow. If you are able, maybe think of things that can improve your life tomorrow.
Loss sucks. It just does. Grief hurts. There's all too much loss in life. But that's only because there is a lot of bonds that we make during life, bonds that bring us joy and comfort.
But grief also subsides over time, and loss becomes a dull ache that sometimes flares to a pain.
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