Posted by Partlycloudy on September 2, 2009, at 17:50:02
In reply to What's wrong with judgement?, posted by backseatdriver on September 2, 2009, at 17:06:15
I am encouraged by my therapist to embrace my judgments as human nature. If something or someone is really bugging me, she'll have me write out a list of all the pettinesses that I can think of. Sometimes it helps me to see the silliness of them - sometimes it helps me see that what I think is upsetting me is really about something else.
So I make no attempts to hide the fact that I am judgmental. I do, however, hide the judgments themselves - particularly at a place like babble - if by voicing them I'd be uncivil or hurting someone's feelings. It's very much for my internal work and not for public viewing, but I find it useful not to pretend that I don't have these judgments. They exist, everyone (I think, to some extent) has them, and I judge myself the most harshly of all. I think it's human nature.
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