Posted by pegasus on August 25, 2009, at 11:33:59
In reply to Re: Do you care how your T spends money? » backseatdriver, posted by Dinah on August 23, 2009, at 11:26:50
I don't know that I'd be able to separate the issues as well as Dinah does. It would bother me a lot. I don't think I'd leave the T immediately, as a matter of principle. But it would probably affect my ability to trust them. I would wonder if they would be able to have real empathy and understanding of my issues if their own values were so different than mine. Which could eventually lead to me concluding that I couldn't work with them.
And, it would bother me to think that his money came from me, and was going to a cause that I don't support. Because maybe if I didn't pay him, then he wouldn't give so much money to the bad cause. I don't buy certain products for similar reasons, and I might think I should do the same type of "speaking with my money" here. Except that the therapeutic relationship is not so simple as switching brands of soap or something. It's not like there is an exactly equivalent product that I could painlessly switch to, for the betterment of the world.
Tough situation. Let us know what you decide to do.
Peg
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