Posted by fleeting flutterby on August 24, 2009, at 11:08:02
In reply to Re: Has anyone ever gotten any help from a T like » backseatdriver, posted by antigua3 on August 24, 2009, at 10:31:12
---flutterby: Hey all-- this is to anyone that knows about such things.....
with what antigua said--- "I don't get a sense that I'm having any effect on my psychiatrist. Does that mean he is just very good at hiding it, even when I've told him the most horrific things? I agree that it would probably violate his therapeutic principles, but it sure is hurtful."I had a T. that didn't show much emotion towards me and it triggered me(Narcissistic mother was cold and repelled being nurturing) to the point that productive therapy was happening less and less until I ended up leaving for good. My new current T. has had tears several times when I've shared some horrific things(like a gun to my back when I was a child- wondering if each breath was my last, having to watch as smaller kids were horrifically abused... and much more)--others tears for me is so NOT what I am used to!-- even though I don't cry-- it somehow feels like someone has taken my emotions and was fearless enough to show them for me. Is this T. I now see violating theraputic principles in doing this? gosh, I hope not-- I really trust someone for once in my life. *sigh*....wondering now if I'm wrong for putting some of my guard down..... :o(
....and she only let's silences last for about 5 seconds or less-- feels so much safer to me.to pweil- I could not function with a lot of silence-- too much like what I grew up with also.(no reaction, advise or comfort from authority figures) The T. I used to have was like that also and it was so so uncomfortable-- felt like he was waiting for me to have a major revelation every time, as I sat there with a stupified blank mind, I felt more and more like a loser...... but... maybe for you the rest of the connection you have with your T. will carry you through those uncomfortable silences.
wishing you the best
flutterby
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